“I’m right!, No you’re not!”
In this newsletter:
* “I’m right! No you’re not!”
* Personal Development Group – “Confidence Building”
* Hypnotherapy Practitioner Diploma
It’s packed with loads of useful stuff (including two free Reports!) so well worth reading to the end!
“I’m right! No you’re not!”
Today’s newsletter is about conflict, conflict with others and also more importantly within ourselves.
Now I’m no stranger in life to conflict and I am guilty of occasionally seeking it out, because for me it brings a resolution to a problem. Not always the one I want long term so I’ve changed the way I’ve perceived and dealt with this, in order to allow me greater flexibility in my life and utilise my time more effectively.
Initially I used to believe that what I thought was right and that the person I was in debate with was wrong, but I’ve realised that this is simply not true. More often than not both sides are right.
How can two sides be right?
Our views, beliefs and values are driven by our emotional experiences in life and those of the people who influence in our early formative years.
Initially we take on the views, values and beliefs of our parents or guardians until we challenge them and form different ones, but we can only do this if we are open to the possibility that with greater knowledge comes greater understanding.
As a therapist and coach, if a client tells me water scares them (I love water), then that is their reality and only if they want to change this, will I help them do this by challenging their beliefs with a number of tools.
So the next time someone says “I think you’re being unfair!” instead of saying something like “Oh don’t be so stupid/daft/ridiculous!” (which is surprisingly common), acknowledge the way they feel by paraphrasing their words back to them in a non- patronising and empathetic way, such as “I accept you think I’m being unfair…AND…(your opinion)”.
Notice I use the word “AND” instead of “BUT”!
If you use the word but you negate all of the sentiment you started the sentence with and will leave the person feeling unheard or misunderstood.
Now let’s take this a step further and use this with ourselves as I’m a big fan of acknowledging our weaknesses as this helps us grow stronger.
Whenever you hear that part of you that says “I’m nervous/scared/worried”, acknowledge it and ask it to help, so you could say “I accept you are nervous/scared/worried…AND I want you to know that we’ve done this before, we’ll be fine.”
You’ll notice the word I use here is “We” because our personality is represented as the sum of the different parts, if this seems a bit whacky to you just use the word “I”.
If you want to come and practise some of these techniques and learn how to build your own inner confidence pop down to our Personal Development Group this Saturday details below.
Personal Development Group – “Confidence Building”
It’s on Saturday 24th September 2011 between 3pm and 5pm I will be presenting a “Confidence Building” workshop teaching you what confidence really is, how to find it and feel it from the inside out.
These are techniques I’ve developed and honed over the last 11 years after suffering with anxiety and a lack of confidence back in 2000.
I’d appreciate it if you’d let those of your friends (that want to get more out of life) know about this event as I want to widen the net to reach out and help as many people as I can!
NB Critical and negative people need not apply as this group is all about supporting and helping each other lead happier, healthier more successful lives!
Once again it will be held at the Jaguar Cars Sports & Social Club, (XJS Suite), Browns Lane, Allesley, Coventry CV5 9DR only £5 entry! All welcome from novice all the way up to seasoned professional, drop us an email to let us know you’re attending at info@wsoh.co.uk
Hypnotherapy Practitioner Diploma
NB: The doors close on the 30th September for the Hypnotherapy Practitioner Diploma and next year the NLP module will not be included as it will be run as a separate course which you will have to pay extra for, so if you want to attend this course you need to ACT NOW!
If you’re looking for a new career, an extra part time income or want to study to help you to understand yourself and others better, then it’s important you register for this course by emailing me ASAP at info@wsoh.co.uk.
The Hypnotherapy Practitioner Diploma offered by the Warwickshire School of Hypnotherapy has been Assessed and Validated at Practitioner Level by The General Hypnotherapy Standards Council (UK). Graduates from this course are eligible for professional registration with The General Hypnotherapy Register (the GHSC’s Registering Agency) at full Practitioner status, together with the acquisition of the industry-based award – The General Qualification in Hypnotherapy Practice (GQHP).
The course will be run over four months with three one week intensive training modules, run on the following dates (weekdays only): Hypnosis – Module One: 10th October – 14th October 2011, Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) – Module Two: 7th November – 11 November 2011 and Hypnotherapy – Module Three: 16th January – 20th January 2012.
NB – This will be the only year the course includes the certification in NLP, next year you will have to pay extra for this module.
Please secure your place via email (info@wsoh.co.uk) or via telephone. There is some pre-course work to complete and application form to fill in. The application form and deposit payment must be received first to secure your place; the balance must be cleared before the course begins.
Take care,
Nick
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